Twin Flames
Have You Reunited With Your Twin Flame?
Oct
Have you met your twin flame? How do you know? I honestly did not believe in the whole concept until I experienced for myself.
I was at a place in my life where I was content with being alone. I had finally found myself and my inner peace, or so I had thought. I was enjoying my life, my alone time, the ability to be completely free of the need or desire to be constantly adjusting my life to accommodate a partner. Don’t get me wrong. I kept the thought in my mind that if I found someone who enhanced my life, someone who encouraged me and allowed me to be free to be myself and I encouraged the same in them, then by all means bring him in. I was no longer compelled to exert any additional energy searching for it. I had become content but even more so, unexpectedly complacent?
One day out of the blue I saw him. It was a simple meeting of the eyes but in that moment I received a bolt of energy like none I have ever experienced. It was like time stood still and and eternity of knowing hit me all at once in an instant. It was such a feeling of recognition and comfort. All my previous relationships have started in a similar manner. I always knew almost the first time I laid eyes on a future partner that we would be together. I think this happens with all our soul mates. We just know that they are the person we are meant to be with. At least I think most people experience this? But meeting my twin flame was not the same. Not even close! I am now absolutely positive there is such a thing as twin flames and finally reuniting with them in this physical world is pure Cosmic magic. It has taken me nearly a year and a tremendous amount of inner soul searching to come to terms with this connection.
Finding your twin will initially feel like a soul mate for most of us but with some beautiful, albeit painful, twists. (My personal understanding of a soul mate is anyone that we shared previous lives with and come together in this current life to work out karmic ties. These relationships are intense and extreme and can last weeks, months or years, but in the end they leave you still searching for an explainable elusive ‘something’) Our twin flame ends that search. Regardless of whether you are able to physically stay together in this life as a couple or as just best friends, you will never be the same. According to all that I have read on twin flames, there are overwhelming hurdles to overcome to maintain physical union. Twin flame love is meant to change the world, uplift and heal the collective. We are in a time where twin flames are meant to come together so it is no surprise to me that there would be forces working against them staying united. The power of reunited twin flames to create positive change in the world is unlimited.
This brings me to my personal understanding of what a twin flame really is. There is a plethora of information out there so I will not reinvent the wheel here. My understanding is that there are signs that help to differentiate your twin flame from a soul mate. I won’t go into detail on all these signs but will just point out what I personally experienced:
- Your twin flame gives you an incredible feeling of acceptance and vice versa. When with them you finally feel as if you can be your authentic self with no fear of judgement. You can share with them the deepest parts of yourself that you would normally never dream of sharing. There are no masks or barriers. There is no desire to present yourself in a ways you normally do to impress someone. In fact you feel the urge to expose aspects of yourself that you refuse to disclose to others. Consequently you accept them exactly as they are. Their flaws, their weaknesses, their fears, everything about them is perfect. You feel no desire to change them. Your only desire is to want the very best for them. You see their potential but you have no desire to force them to change either. You know deep within yourself that they will reach that potential and there is a joy in knowing that you will always be there to encourage them on their journey. It is hard to express the level of acceptance that is mutually given to one another.
- There is unconditional love for your twin flame. You find that you want what is best for your twin regardless of whether that involves you or not. You intrinsically understand that you are in each other’s life to heal and release the shadow aspects of yourself at the deepest level. The relationship can be terrifying to twins who are wounded and fearful of loving and losing. This often seems to create the runner/chaser dynamic as apparently one twin tends to be more advanced at a soul level and understands the connection more so than the other. This means that you allow your twin to the time they need to process their feelings and deal with their own personal issues. There is no judgement, just a desire to help them in whatever manner they need you to participate. Not understanding these dynamics can seriously deter the potential you share.
- Your twin flame inspires you. Coming together with your twin triggers a sense of your true purpose in life. In a nutshell, they make you want to be a better person. Their energy somehow pushes you to go within and release all fears. They inspire you to search your soul and bring out the blocks within yourself that have been holding you back. You no longer feel alone in the world and you find a greater understanding that there is power in allowing yourself to be vulnerable knowing they do not judge you. Somehow them believing in you and loving you unconditionally releases your true essence. You no longer are content to just dream of a better life, you want to create it. Your twin inspires you to take action.
- Your twin flame will bring out a desire to contribute to a better world somehow. All of a sudden you can see yourself helping others awaken and thrive. You understand that you have a purpose and the love you share with your twin flame inspires you to find that purpose or come back into alignment with it. It is no longer just about having a life that is defined by material success. It becomes about how to contribute to the world in a positive way and understanding that the Universe will take care of your needs. Twin flame energy combined seems to automatically uplift and energize people around them. They inspire others simply by being together and the twin flames sense that combined power. Twin flames desire to give back to the world, not take from it.
- You get the strong urge to make changes. No matter what it is in your life that you have been avoiding or trying to repress, it seems as though connecting with your twin flame will expose it and bring it to light. The twin flame mirrors back to you all aspects of yourself in a loving way. Their acceptance of you gives you the strength and ability to find your true essence, your true purpose. Who are you when you no longer feel judged or feel obligated to confine yourself to external socially acceptable expectations? You have the strong desire to break free of old paradigms and shine your inner light. The urge to initiate these changes will feel very uncomfortable. There is anxiety, uncertainty, outright fear, but underneath all of those feelings is a deep sense of strength. Something within has been triggered and encourages you to forge ahead anyway. You know that your twin flame will be there with you whether physically or energetically to inspire you to reach your full potential.
- Your twin flame will give you an unshakable knowing deep within that you are with the one. It is that simple. You can question the connection, deny it, run from it, analyze it, fear it, try to push it away but in the end you will accept it for what it is. You will simply love this person and want the very best for them regardless of whether they are with you or not. You know that you have met and connected with the missing ‘something’. You will finally comprehend that love is eternal and so much more than what we have been forced to believe via indoctrination in this construct. Finding and loving your twin flame is finding home. We have the ability to uplift the world simply by living the truth of this love.
- Your twin flame is a bizarre kind of mirror to yourself. They seem to not only reflect back to you so many similarities that it borders on ridiculous, but also seem to compliment all of the the areas you lack. Together your personalities create a perfect balance. Yin and yang aligned. For example, if you are high-strung your twin will be relaxed. If you are unpredictable, your twin will be stable, etc. In the presence of your twin flame there is no competition, no desire to force the other to your perspective though you may be diametrically opposed in some areas. Rather there is a deep admiration and respect for your differences which you would normally not accept in other relationships. You love them even more for these differences rather than judge them or expect them to change. Being with them allows you to be vulnerable to your differences where you would normally be defensive. It is human behavior to judge differences rather than understand and accept them, especially our partners. Having someone as a mirror that has no judgement but only loving acceptance of all aspects of ourselves in turn gives us the power to love ourselves in a way no other relationship will. We know we are loved by them unconditionally and the only person left that needs to love you in this same way now is you!
I will not speak for my twin. One day I hope he will speak about this on his own accord. I can say that I know he values me and wants me connected to his life although I don’t think he even quite understands why. There are many barriers currently that keep us separated and these barriers he may find insurmountable. I don’t know. I do know that without his energy and inspiration, I would not be making some major changes to my life. He has helped me reconnect to my purpose, to walk my talk. I have shown him who I am warts and all and he accepts me as I am and although he may not comprehend unconditional love on a conscious level, I feel his love for me from the heart level. Currently he still equates love to many of the physical levels and more than likely will enter a soul mate relationship to learn more of what love is not. It is my personal belief that soul mates teach us that. All the things that love is not. Unfortunately some never rise to the next level and continue to create karmic ties bound by ego.
Reuniting with my twin flame has given me an even deeper ability to assist and guide my clients on their own journey. I am working with more and more clients that have reunited with their twin flame as well. Funny how life has that perfect synchronicity of guidance! For further reading please read here —here— and here.
~Anna Ellington To schedule a reading with me.
Thank you. This is the best explanation of a twin flame. You put into words how I feel about mine. We aren’t together at this time, which makes some of your explanations all the more poignant.
Hi Anna,
The U synchronistically linked me to you via Facebook. 😊
I agree with much of your thinking; and ‘some’ of the popular ‘theories’ on SMs, but not all.
Based on my own experience and research, here are a few things for your consideration.
I never accepted the notion that SM/TFs were two halves of a soul that had been separated. Someone who felt the same, and who’s theory I resonate with is William Henderson who wrote “Science of Soulmates”. Yes, our SM helps us to balance our internal M/F qualities, but others can help with that too, who aren’t our SM. When reunited, rocket fuel is added to the process! The bliss outweighs the challenges of making difficult internal changes. SMs who take the Couple Hero Journey and reach enlightenment together, become Co-Creators. The creativity of the U isn’t a single energy, but couples- reunited SMs who have passed through the initiation/process together.
As a wise Shaman told me one time, “When the heart of this one, and the heart of that one are the same; the Circle is complete.”
Also, check the astrology (script) with your person! Look for a time in both people’s charts and the progressed composite charts, when Chiron conjuncted the Midheaven (Hieros Gamos) and Uranus conjuncted the IC.
The chart with my ex was very close, but never (in this lifetime) would’ve been conjunct. We also had Isis/Osiris closely conjunct. We had a lovely ship. People in our life were certain we were SMs. Almost! We went a long way together; there was much healing; but he couldn’t join me when I wanted to take our intimacy to a higher level. He didn’t chose that script this time. Wish I had known then, what I know now!
Juxtaposed with my SM:
Chiron conjuncted MC, opposite IC/Uranus/Mars. These two points were square our Sun, forming a T-Square; all at 9*. Sun was in the middle of a Love Stellium. In addition, Isis and Osiris were conjunct and part of the Stellium which was opposite Atlantis. We experienced HG in our individual charts and together. I was first, then ours, then his; spanning about 30 years in total of intense connection, healing, other-worldly bliss. There are no human words for the erotic nature of this connection; the magic; synchronicities; paranormal activity; lucid dreams…
That’s the short story.
I have looked at many charts of individuals and couples in my life and haven’t found this aspect. Some get close, but it was clear that they didn’t choose the HG experience this lifetime. It’s also not to say that everyone shouldn’t work toward raising their vibration; thereby raising the planetary vibration! Every little bit helps! Check out Heart Math!
My conclusion. Not everyone is destined to connect with their SM this lifetime. SMs don’t ‘go away’. I can say with certainty that my ex came into my life to prepare me for the reconnection/HG experience with my SM; as did many other experiences prior.
Interesting feedback and thank you for taking the time to write. I too have contemplated the whole theory of individual souls vs. the one soul energy in two bodies. Because I have personally experienced the soulmate relationships vs. what I am experiencing with my twin flame, I feel very deeply that the one soul in two bodies to be truth..for me personally. I do want to delve deeper into the astrological aspect as I fully believe that can be an indicator. Do you do charts professionally? I would be interested in exploring that avenue. I am currently working on a system using gematria which is proving to be very ‘telling’ of the nature of the connections as well. If you read more of my blog posts you will get a better insight into why I feel there is a difference between twin flames, soul mates and karmic mates. They are distinct and neccessary to full soul evolution as we arrive at this place in our ‘timeloop’ or recycle/reincarnation 3D system…;-)
I listened to your video ‘Twin Flame Fairy Tale or Fact’ after posting and resonated with all that you said. On my journey to understand what was happening to me (it didn’t come with an instruction manual 😊); I found so many conflicting theories on the TF/SM topic that I stopped reading. I have used them interchangeably but leaned toward SM after finding Henderson. His definition of SM matches your TF definition. Your descriptions of the two makes sense. In your language, what I experienced with my ex would be a SM connection; very similar but distinctly different, than the TF connection!
I’m not a pro astrologer, although, I can run the charts with all the info; as anyone can at Astro.com. I have done so with many people/couples looking for this aspect. I delved into astrology looking for an explanation for what was happening. It provided most of the pieces of the puzzle. The script laid out before me, verbatim!
I found Barbara Hand-Clow’s information on Chiron to be very helpful. I use Evolutionary Astrology (Steven Forrest) for interpretations of aspects. I strongly resonated with both of them. Probably not necessary, but our charts are very similar- same Sun, AC/DC, MC/IC; all houses in the same signs. Both have Neptune in Scorpio H8- an indicator for the HG experience. Many other indicators. When I compared my charts with my closest friends (SMs, Soul Tribe), I found that each of them possessed a piece of him and noticed how those aspects were accentuated in those ships.
When at the height of Kundalini; when Eros was so persistent and the Love I felt/was receiving so intense I thought my body would vibrate into pieces; I found Jana Dixon’s ‘Biology of Kundalini’ very useful. Online- free. But, as with everything I found; her experience was similar, but not exactly the same. The primary difference being that mine was constant for an extended period of time. K happened when it was ‘supposed’ to; validated by my chart; and not because I ate an austere diet and meditated 10 hours/day. Prior to, I wasn’t even meditating and further, didn’t know what K was. Still can’t say with certainty that it completely defines what I experienced.
Also, look at the Numerology analysis. We have 33/6, which the report stated was rare. Christ Consciousness; ultimate attainment of consciousness; want to use their life to raise the consciousness of as many people as possible; focus- reaching the world and uplifting the loving energy of mankind; will be called to leadership/responsibility; usually achieve fame through acts of kindness, tenderness, compassion that lead to the transformation of the world’s consciousness.
I really enjoyed and resonated with the video I watched and will continue to read your site. My primary frustration has been that I’ve had no one to talk to about the experience. Even my closest friends; when I dared to share little bits that I thought they could handle; looked at me like I had a 3rd eye. They listened; but couldn’t relate, or share in my ecstatic JOY. How can they? They haven’t experienced it. I stopped talking about it when a ‘healer’ expressed interest and drew more and more information out of me. He possessed no box to put me in, so wrongly concluded that I was psychotic/delusional; and referred me to the movie ‘Don Juan Demarco’. 😊 Wisdom in ‘not casting your pearls’. Discernment, a hard lesson.
Thank you for sharing and providing this venue.
🙂 Fun synchronicity… I received your response to me at 10.01p last night. I noticed it was 10.01a when I sat to respond. And 11.11 when I clicked to post.
Have met my twin flame last month and it is insane how it gives a feeling of love, peace and coming home.
Such a crazy journey on helping myself to develop. Have to say the vulnerability is insane as well as I know she won’t be the mom of my kids. We have a 20+ year age difference.. Never felt so much love, faith and acceptance.
While sleeping together and meditating we do see each other. Even different versions when we look info each others eyes. A week ago we felt like we were merging into one energy while we stared into each others eyes.
Tnx for writing about it
Love and light
X
Dear Anna,
Dear Anna, Once again an article which inspires comprehension, perspective, peace and a broader, deeper concept of love.
Just your writing is deeply moving in its own right – what a journey you must be on… Thank you for your courage, openness, honesty and tenderness to all concerned. Brave, bright soul, shine on!
This is another great article which really sums up thewhole dynamic I think. I was lucky enough to gain confirmation on all this from my twin, that she was have the exact same experience but handling it in a different way. Your runner really does feel this although their behaviour will often suggest otherwise. We became conscious twins, and then- she ran straight into an engagement. But she is a conscious runner! And we both knew and spoke about how we are not healed enough to handle the intensity of the dynamic at the moment