Psychic Dependency

As a reader, I have had the experience of coming in contact with many people that to put it bluntly…scare me! Psychic dependency is just as detrimental as any other form of addiction/co-dependence! I have had countless people tell me stories of spending thousands of dollars on psychics, to the point of financial ruin! Not to mention the stories of people that have hung on to outcomes from readings that in end never happened! All because they had a need and the psychics had the greed! When you are down, vulnerable and ‘out of control’ of your own life and you are so wanting to hear a particular answer, it can be so easy to become dependant on the psychic that gives it to you…even if it is the WRONG answer. Even if it goes against your own intuition and logic.

I have had many people come to me and say well psychic so-and-so told me it was going to happen, why are YOU saying the opposite?…well the only answer I have to that is I can only tell a person what my own particular ‘gift’ brings out for them. These same people that get conflicting answers from myself vs. another reader also tend to ‘psychic surf’. They don’t like or want to hear what I have to say and off they go to the next one. They will go from one to another and to another still…looking for answers, wanting to hear over and over a certain outcome…in fact sometimes demanding it! The bottom line is there is no guarantees!…yep. You heard it right here. I don’t care what reader you consult, how good they are, how long they have been doing it. There is no reader that can claim 100% accuracy!!

People are sometimes very lost and needy. I mean most people don’t seek out a reading unless they are uncertain and confused about their feelings and direction or that of significant other in their lives. In this state of being though, you are also very vulnerable to becoming dependent on the readings to ease this discomfort or pain. Combine that with crossing paths with psychics that can pick up on this and use it to their advantage and as Emeril says “Bam”. This can be an explosive and harmful combination if the psychic is not trained and experienced enough to separate themselves from their seekers. It can also be harmful to the seeker if the psychic they choose is less than ethical. You are on your way to, more often than not, the poorhouse!

TRUTH is always what you need to seek and getting anything less is not fair to your mind or your Spirit and very harmful in the end. You may not get the answers you want to hear from me but I hope you will understand that it is only your best interests at heart. By the same token, there can be times when you will get the answers you want to hear, and I may be wrong too! I know it may seem strange to have me telling you about my shortcomings rather than my miraculous results. I am just so saddened by all the claims psychics make in regards to their abilities that make people believe in them too much! This is a huge reason why people can become dependent. They want to believe so desperately that all those huge hyped up claims are true!!

I have had to give people disheartening news so many times, in spite of knowing they want to hear something different. Unfortunately, at times, I have had to tell a people that an outcome has changed for whatever reason. Free will and choice still always come into play with every single reading. Most of the time I can see why that has happened and what changed the overall outcome and explain it, but sometimes not. This can be very disappointing to the seeker of course, but also to myself as I feel as if I have ‘failed’ them in some way. This is where experience and training come in. How do you tell someone that has been seeking your advice for a number of days, weeks or even months that it has all changed?…it is very difficult, BUT they they be told. That line unfortunately is crossed by many psychics. They have predicted the same outcome for so long and been accurate with so many others that they themselves cannot believe that it has changed. For some psychics this can be devastating to their egos as well as to their ‘track record’ and will choose to tell the client what they want to hear, rather than the truth. This is again, where ethics and experience come in.

Unfortunately when the outcome changes, sometimes the person getting the reading is disappointed and angry and will lash out at the psychic, more often than not leaving bad feedback or telling others that the psychic was leading them on or lying etc. This makes it easy to understand why sometimes a psychic will not change the reading once they have given you a certain outcome. You as a seeker cannot blame the psychic, and the psychic should not be made to feel or believe they need to blame themselves. That is just sometimes God’s plan and no matter how desperately we want and need answers, sometimes some things are just not meant to be known until we have lived through them.

The best way to avoid this heartache at all times is learn how to be in control of your own life. Learn how to get in touch with yourself and your own intuition. Learn how to take what seemslike a hopeless situation and make it into something good. Every experience is a learning experience. If you are heartbroken because a man or a woman has left you, you have lost your job, your life is in a shambles or you are confused and scared, start searching within yourself for answers. If you are going to look to others for answers and help, make sure you are finding people that empower you. People that give you advice on how to deal with yourself and your life, not how to change or control others. Seek out books and people that tell you how to manifest real positive changes in your life, not how to just ‘survive’ through it.

Find a reader that you feel comfortable with, that proves their abilities to you and stay with them. I always recommend my clients get a second or possibly even a third reader to look at their situation…but not a gazillion more!!!!

In any situation in life we always need to maintain our own power, even when there are other human beings involved. Getting answers psychically can be wonderful and if you have chosen the right reader that is highly accurate, ethical and empowering.  Please do not become dependant on psychics! In fact, do not become dependant on anybody. We all need a helping hand and advice in our lives, but we also need to learn to make our own decisions and choices and be responsible for them.

In regards to how often I feel a person should get a reading. I go by the questions you are asking. If I give you a reading with particular time frames and the general outcome, I prefer that you allow this time to pass and the events to play out! In other words if I get that an outcome will not manifest for approximately 3 months…wait 3 months! I do suggest consulting another reader of course for confirmation if you feel it is necessary. I do suggest waiting at least a day or so before getting another reading though. If that other reader gives you approximately the same time frames for the same questions…chances are it is going to take that long! Calling for a reading once a week on the same issue does not speed it up! If you have new situations crop up that require a new reading on, by all means feel free to question it.